“Growing up is at heart, the process of learning to take responsibility for whatever happens in your life.” bell hooks Today it’s been 3 weeks since I put my cat, Jade, to sleep. I don’t remember when I first wanted a cat. It might’ve been when I was young, but my first cat memory is from college, when I spent Wednesday nights having dinner and watching West Wing at my friend’s mom’s house. They had several cats and at one …